Today i took Marc to the cinema as Courtney was getting the horses ready for the show tomorrow so heres hoping she does well !!!1 So proud of both my kids !!!! So will be taking Marc to the show hopfully if it is nice !!! Camera on charge for lots of pretty pics !!!!
What are you veiws on parents with children special needs working ??? I mean why should we not work ????
That is terrible!! Yes please do go see about that with the citizens advice... that is appauling.
ReplyDeleteYou're entitled to time off when your kid is sick I'm pretty sure of it. There's a thing about legally being entitled to a certain amount of unpaid (or paid if your employer is kind) parental leave before child is aged 14 I think it is.
Tesco have sacked mums for the same thing, and I've known of folk taking them to court for unfair dismissal and winning it.
Luckilly the NHS is brilliant and it's pretty damn impossible to be fired from there, but they've always been fab with me being off sick with the wee man. Not Tesco though. They treated us appaulingly.
I worked for Tesco for just under 11 years til Dec 2009. Every time D had a hosp appt/admission etc where I had to take time off work they'd pull me into an attendance meeting with 2 managers. one the interviewer - one notetaker. They'd ask me all about him, his condition etc and they'd write it down. EVERY TIME FOR YEARS! And I'd be given "next steps" of keeping them fully informed about D and his health etc. Not that they cared of course... they just wanted me THERE. I didn't think it was any of their damn business all the ins and outs of D's condition. And the fact was always different managers, and people talk... What right do they have to know HIM? *I* was the employee. Not him. Tesco are terrible employers for that.
A woman I worked with had to be off with her daughter a few times in half a year and got TOLD at one of these meetings that she'd "just have to find a childminder for days that her daughter had D+V or put her to your mothers". Despite her mother being in her 80's and her daughter only being a toddler. D+V child too much to force on an elderly lady! PLUS what childminders gonna keep a spot open for the odd chance a child will be ill when they could get a child in that space who is actually there all the time and they're getting paid for? And they'd not take a D+V child anyway... hello contageous illness!? THAT is how petty and terrible they are. She ended up getting fired for it, and won in court.
Why shouldn't we work indeed! parents with children with additional needs should be supported and applauded for it, not shot down for it. I'd rather have a parent with a special needs child working for me if I was an employer than some ignorant off sick with "hangovers" often teenager!! The special needs parent would be a hell of a lot more reliable.. and NEEDING the job, therefore a better employee all around!!
Louise the cab are brill ...... I have to write to my old employer asking for things then take that back to cab they will take it from there !!
ReplyDeleteI love working gets me away from all the hassles at home and your right i would rather have a parent of a special needs kid than a unreliable person !!!!
I'm frustrated by this now. My youngest (19 mos) has NF and it seems every week there's one or two appointments he has to go to. Plus two older children with various medical needs of their own.
ReplyDeleteWhile I was on mat. leave with my youngest I lost my job as I worked for a non-profit and they shut down due to lack of funding. So I would need to find a new job. But I know there's no way I'd be kept on as I'd take so many days in the first month alone that they'd find a reason to let me go. Unfortunately the jobs that are mor felxible and provide more shift work are often the lower-paying jobs and wouldn't cover my daycare expenses.
So I'm still at home (which I like, mind you, but part of me still yearns to work) and trying to figure out a way to keep us from going bankrupt.
Ideally parents of children with ongoing special needs would be protected by law. I'm not saying we need paid leave all the time, just flexibility. Most laws protect parents whose children become acutely ill, but not chronically ill children.